Last night I went with my younger son to watch our team, Ipswich Town, play Wolves. We were looking forward to the game, had a good feeling about it, and felt that – after a dodgy start to the season – our Tractor boys were going to play up and get a really good result.

Well, we ended up being disappointed as it turned out as the Town did not play at all well, and lost 2-0 to a decidedly average Wolves. Never mind.

Where we sit in the ground, we have a brilliant view of the match, but unfortunately behind us is a lady who I shall call Mrs Negativity, and throughout most of the game she commented on every single mistake our team made, how poor they were, how terrible it is to watch, and how bad the team is – and yes, she is an Ipswich Town supporter. My son and I got so fed up at one point that we almost turned round and had a word with her – why on earth does she still keep coming, only to moan throughout the whole match. I made a particular point of cheering when Ipswich played well, and commenting positively on their play, although it must be said that as the game went on, this was quite difficult to do.

I really hope that our team manages to turn things round, but the point I want to make here is that some people really do seem to actually enjoy being negative, they absolutely thrive on it, but they can be unaware of how it ‘pollutes’ the area around them by sending out these negative vibes. I do sometimes even think that a team can even tend to absorb the feelings given out by the supporters, although in saying this I am not excusing the players of not playing up.

Some people that I meet have problems working or living with people who give out this ‘negative’ energy – they find that they absorb it, and end up feeling miserable or drained, despite being generally optimistic people themselves.

We have all met or come into contact with these types of people, and the first thing we have to realise is that we cannot change them, but what we CAN change is our response to them. Through hypnotherapy and NLP, it is possible to use our imaginations to protect ourselves from the doom and gloom-mongers, and this can be done in all sorts of ways by using our own creative minds. Sometimes in hypnosis clients can imagine that they are surrounded by a very protective bubble, and this enables them to ‘bounce off’ any negative energy that might be around them. Or else, the difficult person can be ‘shrunk down’ and their voice reduced to a tiny squeak, so they do not affect us in the same way. This type of therapy can be used with great effect with children, as they have such imaginative minds and usually come up with all sorts of ways that they can protect themselves in difficult encounters.

Call me on 01449 780352 or 07817158429 to find out how hypnotherapy and NLP could help you.

Wendy x

PS. By the way, for those of you who read my last blog, my musical son is loving life in Birmingham and enjoying fresher’s week to the full. House is very quiet though. W