This morning I had breakfast with Dr Who and Rocky Balboa.  The Dr had his usual fare of crunchy nut clusters, filled to the brim and Rocky had chocolate spread on toast (more chocolate spread than toast).  There were the usual grunty comments, demands for money, school letters etc. before I pushed them out of the door to the bus stop.

Even though my boys are now a few inches taller than me and have deep voices, I am still really glad that they like dressing up in character.   When they were little this was an endless source of amusement and we had many themed parties, where guests were asked to dress up.  And it still seems that any excuse for fancy dress (like Red Nose Day) prompts them to get creative, in spite of teenage reserve and angst, and just go for it. 

So today we had the ‘new’ Dr Who complete with bow tie, tweed jacket and sonic screwdriver and Rocky Balboa in stripy shorts and white robe, with a nice mauve eye.
We live in a country village, so these two must have looked quite a sight walking to where the bus stops near the church.

I often have clients who come to me wishing that they could be more confident, articulate, assertive etc. etc. but they feel that this is not ‘them’ – they have never been like ‘that sort of person’ and they never will be.   My response to this is to suggest that they actually imagine how it really feels to be that person that they want to be, use their creativity, and work out in detail what that person would do and say, how they would behave.   In NLP this is called ‘modelling’ and its basic premise is that by literally acting ‘as if’ you are a person whose qualities you would like to have, you CAN assume those qualities for yourself.   It does take practice, but the more you ‘act out’ a certain role, the more you become that person.   So, for example, if there is a particular individual who you admire, be this a celebrity or somebody you know and respect, really notice how they behave, their traits, their mannerisms (obviously without resulting to stalking them!) and by doing this, you can have those qualities yourself.   The more you practice, the more they will become part of you.

Writing this blog, there’s a song that keeps coming into my mind ‘Be what you want to be’ – I think that its by ‘The Mamas and the Papas’ – and by practicing this NLP technique, you can literally be the person that you know you really want to be.  The only limit is your imagination.

For further advice on how to fulfil your potential, please contact me on 01449 780352 or 0781 7158429, or email me on wendy@wendychalk.co.uk.

I’m not promising time travel (although in a strange sort of way hypnotherapy can transport you back through time) or a world champion boxing title, but what you will discover is that you are free to be whatever and whoever you want.