As a nation we tend to be backwards in coming forwards, and will very often put up with things that are unsatisfactory, as opposed to speaking out. In some ways this very British reserve can be a positive thing, a desire to keep the peace, not ruffle any feathers and above all, avoid confrontation.

I have to say that, personally, I have always had a tendency towards keeping my own counsel and not speaking out. But of late I have begun to recognise the value of giving my opinion when I feel strongly that a view needs to be put forward.

However, when we do put our thought across it is really important that we consider the effect that this is going to have.

In NLP there is a saying ‘the meaning of the communication is the response that you get’. So, just opening your mouth to let out anger, frustration or displeasure without really giving any thought as to how this will be received is generally not a good idea.

On the other hand, being able to express your view in a well thought out and constructive way, whilst at the same time retaining a good rapport with the person (or persons) you are speaking to is the essence of effective communication.

A big part of being able to have the confidence to express yourself clearly and well is having greater self-esteem, a belief in your own abilities, and also trusting your gut feeling.

Hypnotherapy and NLP can help you to feel much more confident about yourself so that, if you do find yourself in a situation where it is necessary to be forthright, you will find it much easier to express your point of view.

But, more importantly perhaps, in a way which will be heard and understood.

Very best wishes,

Wendy x